In this clip from my video with Dr. Phil, we discuss the importance of showing remorse during a government investigation. It’s not about delivering a scripted apology or saying what you think people want to hear. I can assure you federal judges know if you are placating them.
Why Remorse Matters
When judges, prosecutors, and probation officers evaluate a case, they’re often cautious about defendants who say “sorry, I am so remorseful”. They’ve seen apologies that feel hollow or self-serving—designed to avoid consequences rather than take responsibility. To be taken seriously, remorse must go beyond words. It’s about showing that you understand the harm caused and are actively working to make things right.
Telling Your Story
Expressing remorse starts with telling your story. Be honest about what happened, why you regret your actions, and how you’ve taken steps to ensure it won’t happen again. Don’t make excuses. Instead, share your thought process and acknowledge where you went wrong.
For example, if you made poor decisions under pressure, admit it and explain what you’ve learned. Humanizing your actions helps stakeholders see you as more than a case number—they see the full context of your choices.
While your lawyer can present arguments on your behalf, remorse must come from you. Judges want to hear directly from YOU!
Taking Responsibility
Remorse is shown through actions, not just words. Taking responsibility means demonstrating how and why you will never return to another courtroom. This could include:
- Quickly owning your conduct
- Assisting the government to catch more cases, to use some prison parlance!
- Volunteering to show how you are part of the solution.
- Paying back victims
- Starting a new career
- And so much more!
Each of these actions helps paint a picture of someone committed to doing better, not through words, but actions.
You Must Change The Narrative!!
Government investigations tend to focus on our worst decisions. But you’re more than that. You can change the narrative by advocating through your own efforts. Create a timeline, as Joseph did. Measure progress. If you do not, you are weaker.
If you’re preparing for a pre-sentence interview or sentencing hearing, DO THE WORK!
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JP
